Penny Haslam's confidence download
My best advice on how to make yourself a little more confident. Thanks for taking part in Penny Haslam's confidence session here's a re-cap of some of the ideas discussed plus some more for you to consider.
Confidence comes first
All too often, confidence is seen as a personal burden to bear, something you have to work out on your own. I believe we've got to get over this idea because confidence is actually a people problem that we can all work to resolve.
If confidence was a game of top trumps. It would trump happiness, performance, success and resilience. That's because once you and your team have confidence you know how to set about achieving those other things.
1. ICE negative self talk
If you are thinking to yourself, what's self-talk? That's self-talk. It's the voice inside your head that can sometimes speak to you in ways we wouldn’t dream of talking to our friends. So when you next catch yourself being self-critical, talk back to that voice. Watch my video (2-minutes) to help you identify, confront and extinguish (ICE) the negative internal voice that can hold you back.
2. Can you be a Yeti?
If you have the image of a Himalayan mythical creature in your mind's eye, apologies. My concept of being a Yeti is a powerful way to shift thinking on our personal potential. It is simply the practice of adding the word ‘yet’ to the closed statements that tell us we can’t or don’t or won’t. They are often applied to our attitudes, skills and knowledge. Typical examples include:
- I don’t understand these new regulations.
- I can’t find the time to eat more healthily.
- I’m not able to share my ideas in meetings.
Now go back and add ‘yet’ after each of those statements and feel the difference. It changes everything. From a cul-de-sac to a straight road ahead. Watch people’s faces when the penny drops – it’s joyful! And beyond ‘yet’ there are possibilities and useful actions to take that in turn, build confidence. For example:
- I don’t understand these new regulations, yet… I’m going to have a chat with a couple of colleagues about them.
- I'm no good at presenting in meetings, yet... I'm going to find someone who can help.
By Penny Haslam
MD and Founder - Bit Famous
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3. What are your ValYOUs
Set aside some time to consider your values. What you stand for, what you believe in. Standing up for something is the foundation of confident behaviour and actions. Here's my list of ValYous, how about you make your own version on a post-it.
Also from Penny Haslam
In her motivational keynote Make Yourself a Little Bit Famous, Penny Haslam will show you how to power up your profile and get known for what you do. It can also be delivered online, as a workshop or lunch and learn. Read Penny Haslam's rave reviews.